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By Alyssa Royse
Aaron Sorkin is getting is getting a tongue-lashing in the feminist blog-o-sphere for his portrayal of women in The Social Network. As pointed out in New York Magazine, Salon Magazine is calling it misogynistic. Entertainment Weekly described it as “horrendous, like, ’50s-level sexist.” Even The Daily Beast thought the depiction of women as “props, buxom extras literally bussed in to fill the roles of doting groupies, vengeful sluts, or dumpy, feminist killjoys” was beastly.
Weird. As someone who considers herself a feminist, and spends more time than most in the tech-startup-boys-club, I didn’t feel any of that. I sat there and thought, “cool, now people will finally know what it’s like to be a woman in tech.” I don’t mean to be a vengeful, feminist killjoy, but it seemed pretty spot-on to me.
And maybe now we can finally, really, talk about why there aren’t more women in tech. Short answer – which may make more sense if you’ve seen the movie – because no one is rounding us up in busses and bringing us to the party. Long answer, it’s not a party most women would want to go to.
As Sorkin himself explains, on Ken Levine’s Blog:
I was writing about a very angry and deeply misogynistic group of people. These aren’t the cuddly nerds we made movies about in the 80’s. They’re very angry that the cheerleader still wants to go out with the quarterback instead of the men (boys) who are running the universe right now …
Pause. Sigh. Right.
Disclaimer. Some of my best friends in the world are men in the Seattle Tech Startup world. By in large, they are smart, kind, generous, funny and wonderful. However, there is a lot of truth in Sorkin’s explanation, and a lot of the guys at the top of some of the tech companies ‘round these parts fit that bill exactly. It creates a toxic environment that oozes down through the ranks, and is just as troubling to many men as it is to women, but many men don’t feel they can stand up to it either.
The net result is an environment that is not easy for even the ballsiest amongst us to feel comfortable in. Given other options, why would anyone choose to be in an environment like that?
According to a recent Wall Street Journal article, only 11% of venture backed tech companies have current or former female CEOs. Ycombinator has funded 208 companies, and only 14 of them were led by women. Why? This is a chicken-and-egg conundrum. There are not more women because there are too many men, and there are too many men because there aren’t more women.
But how does that manifest environmentally?
A recent case study in the New York Times tells the story of Candace Fleming’s fundraising odyssey for a startup that she co-founded.
- The first time I pitched publicly, I was told I was too sexy to be taken seriously. (By a woman who was older and more experienced than me. A vengeful, feminist killjoy?)
- I had an advisor tell me never to say anything intelligent in the first 15 minutes of a meeting because it would take guys that long to think I was hot, figure out if they had a chance with me, realize they didn’t and then pay attention.
- I was told to hire a male CEO in order to raise money, which was disastrous on every level. In our meetings, people would only talk to him, even though I was the founder.
- There was one meeting in which a room full of men were all talking about sports and ignoring me altogether. I finally had to stand up and say, “I don’t know a thing about sports, so if you want to keep doing this we’re going to have to switch to sex metaphors, unless, of course, you’re ready to get busy.”
- One of the first major investor meetings I had alone was with a male angel who managed to bring up Seattle’s uptight feelings about kinky sex in conversation. (Wow, I’ll show him, with my current startup.)
- People are, by nature, attracted to sameness and fearful of difference. It make sense that a bunch of guys would be more inclined to hire, work with, found with and fund a bunch of guys who remind them of themselves. Whether they do it consciously or not.
- Given a choice, most people will not choose to stay in a situation in which they do not feel comfortable.
- The only way this will change is if we’re honest about it. No punishing, name-calling, blaming, shaming or coddling. Just honest.